how to maintain relationships
In every relationship comes a time when the passion starts to go off, the chat's are more and more boring and the two of you are spending less time together. Why is this happening and how to get your relationship back to the way it was?
The answer to all of this is quite simple. Mix being predictable & being nice, and the whole problem/solution is here.
maintaining relationship
See, in the beginning you both have been very excited of the idea of getting to know each other, so questions pour in, ideas and funny behavior are coming naturally because you are with someone that you really like and want to have a fun time with!
But, this is the so called "honeymoon" period of the relationship. After that (usually a few months) both of you already have solid information about each other, and are getting used to seeing the same face over and over again, so you are getting more comfortable and don't always have to be in that high energy state that you were a few months ago (or at least not while being with her!).
And here comes a mistake that most guys do in this situation. They try to supplicate their boring behavior by being even more boring and start talking to the girl about how much they love her, how lovely was the time being spend together and they start doing/buying nice things so she can see how much they care.
Need even more examples?
They'll actually even amplify their predicable behavior by making it even more predictable, just in case so they don't do something wrong and do even more damage. This totally removes the surprise element from the relationship, an element which can be one of your greatest assets to get the attraction up in a short time.
I remember a good sentence explaining this, it was in the lines of "you can't expect changes if you keep doing the same things over and over again". This was really revealing at one point for me, and opened my eyes to a lot of faulty behavior and what's even better is that this principle goes for all aspects of life, not just dating in general ...
So what's a guy to do?
1) Give her lots of emotions and feelings.
This is the truly fastest and easiest way to get her attracted and the relationship back on track.
Some examples would include being unpredictable, such as rapid change in behavior (doing anything out of your ordinary daily behaviors), starting to go out to different kinds of places, occasional craziness (letting your mind loose), getting her into your own reality (try showing/doing stuff which you really like and she'll follow along) and more...
2) Don't be Easy!
Lead her along the way, don't just change your mind on her every suggestion.
Never be used by her to do things you wouldn't really do with other people. These are so called "tests", meaning she wants to see just how far you can take her nonsense.
And guess what?
With every step she'll be losing respect in you, not gaining. Think about that next time you are buying food for her cat!
3) Don't Argue
You'll gain massive respect in her eyes with showing that you are controlling your emotions, not the other way around.
Everyone can argue and burst out, but how many guys can keep their cool and don't give a mind about the problem she is making (most of the time it's just not even that important, just occasional emotional outbursts from other things)
Think about these 3 things, and try implementing them in the following days. Results will come!
how to maintain relationships
The answer to all of this is quite simple. Mix being predictable & being nice, and the whole problem/solution is here.
maintaining relationship
See, in the beginning you both have been very excited of the idea of getting to know each other, so questions pour in, ideas and funny behavior are coming naturally because you are with someone that you really like and want to have a fun time with!
But, this is the so called "honeymoon" period of the relationship. After that (usually a few months) both of you already have solid information about each other, and are getting used to seeing the same face over and over again, so you are getting more comfortable and don't always have to be in that high energy state that you were a few months ago (or at least not while being with her!).
And here comes a mistake that most guys do in this situation. They try to supplicate their boring behavior by being even more boring and start talking to the girl about how much they love her, how lovely was the time being spend together and they start doing/buying nice things so she can see how much they care.
Need even more examples?
They'll actually even amplify their predicable behavior by making it even more predictable, just in case so they don't do something wrong and do even more damage. This totally removes the surprise element from the relationship, an element which can be one of your greatest assets to get the attraction up in a short time.
I remember a good sentence explaining this, it was in the lines of "you can't expect changes if you keep doing the same things over and over again". This was really revealing at one point for me, and opened my eyes to a lot of faulty behavior and what's even better is that this principle goes for all aspects of life, not just dating in general ...
So what's a guy to do?
1) Give her lots of emotions and feelings.
This is the truly fastest and easiest way to get her attracted and the relationship back on track.
Some examples would include being unpredictable, such as rapid change in behavior (doing anything out of your ordinary daily behaviors), starting to go out to different kinds of places, occasional craziness (letting your mind loose), getting her into your own reality (try showing/doing stuff which you really like and she'll follow along) and more...
2) Don't be Easy!
Lead her along the way, don't just change your mind on her every suggestion.
Never be used by her to do things you wouldn't really do with other people. These are so called "tests", meaning she wants to see just how far you can take her nonsense.
And guess what?
With every step she'll be losing respect in you, not gaining. Think about that next time you are buying food for her cat!
3) Don't Argue
You'll gain massive respect in her eyes with showing that you are controlling your emotions, not the other way around.
Everyone can argue and burst out, but how many guys can keep their cool and don't give a mind about the problem she is making (most of the time it's just not even that important, just occasional emotional outbursts from other things)
Think about these 3 things, and try implementing them in the following days. Results will come!
how to maintain relationships